A professor of television, I had my first child at 28 and was the first of my friends to give birth. The mothering support I received came from my mother, who (bless her heart) was convinced that all women should stay home with their children and devote their lives to mothering. A lifelong feminist, I knew that something was amiss (particularly for a single parent), and as I learned more about feminism and mothering, I realized there was something at odds with the way mothers were treated in the media and society. Learning why became my passion.
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Mothers on American Television: From Here to Maternity
I loved this book when I initially read it, and return to it time and again. Adrienne Rich is, quite simply, the mother of motherhood studies.
This book strongly resonates with me and my experiences as a mother, particularly how Rich defines mothering and motherhood as two distinct states of being: Motherhood–the patriarchal institution (this is where we get all the do’s and don’ts of what society expects of us as mothers)–and mothering–the actual affective labor of bringing up children.
One section in particular–where Rich compares the freedom of the summer break with the return to restrictions of term time and the ‘rule of the father’–is as true now as it was then. This is a personal take on motherhood infused with passion and intelligence. I highly recommend it.
In Of Woman Born, originally published in 1976, influential poet and feminist Adrienne Rich examines the patriarchic systems and political institutions that define motherhood. Exploring her own experience-as a woman, a poet, a feminist and a mother-she finds the act of mothering to be both determined by and distinct from the institution of motherhood as it is imposed on all women everywhere. A "powerful blend of research, theory, and self-reflection" (Sandra M. Gilbert, Paris Review), Of Woman Born revolutionised how women thought about motherhood and their own liberation. With a stirring new foreword from National Book Critics Circle Award-winning writer…
I first read this book many moons ago. I love Margaret Atwood’s writing, and this book just jumps out of the page as a warning to everyone. I read it again after the Hulu series came out, and it has not lost its power. Could this really happen?
Well, after the overturning of Roe vs Wade, it seems that it really could. Infertility is rising, reproduction is falling, and women’s reproductive rights are being steadily eroded. Atwood did say at the time that nothing in the book had not already happened somewhere in the world, but I don’t think anyone really believed that America would get to the place where Atwood’s ideas seem to be coming true.
I highly recommend this for anyone who is appalled at the way America is shaping up. If I had my way, this prescient novel would be required reading for everyone.
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Go back to where it all began with the dystopian novel behind the award-winning TV series.
'As relevant today as it was when Atwood wrote it' Guardian
I believe in the resistance as I believe there can be no light without shadow; or rather, no shadow unless there is also light.
Offred is a Handmaid in The Republic of Gilead, a religious totalitarian state in what was formerly known as the United States. She is placed in the household of The Commander, Fred Waterford -…
A much more recent book that can be read in conjunction with The Handmaid’s Tale.
I had no idea what to expect from this novel and was truly gripped by the unfolding tale of a world in which women are incarcerated for being deemed bad mothers. I am not going to give away any of the plot here, as the power of the book depends on its unfolding horror.
D W Winnicott's definition of the ‘good enough' mother resonated with me throughout this book, and I do worry that we are facing this dystopian reality in a 21st-century America that puts fetal rights before those of women and families.
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'A taut and propulsive take on the cult of motherhood and the notion of what makes a good mother. Destined to be feminist classic - it kept me up at night' PANDORA SYKES 'A haunting tale of identity and motherhood - as devastating as it is imaginative' AFUA HIRSCH 'Incredibly clever, funny and pertinent to the world we're living in at the moment' DAISY JOHNSON
'We have your daughter'
Frida Liu is a struggling mother. She remembers taking Harriet from her cot and changing her nappy. She remembers…
If anyone is interested in maternal theories (as I clearly am), this is a huge engrossing book. It gathers essays by leading feminist maternal theorists (although don’t let this put anyone off), and I found it a brilliant book that inspired me in so many ways.
It was published in 2007, and I bought it after I met the wonderful Andrea O’Reilly–who is another mother of motherhood studies (literally)–at a motherhood conference. I found so much thoughtful work here and discovered theorists I had never read, which, in turn, inspired me to read their work.
It is awe-inspiring that O’Reilly managed to edit such a huge book with 50 chapters by nearly as many writers. What a treat.
Theory on mothers, mothering and motherhood has emerged as a distinct body of knowledge within Motherhood Studies and Feminist Theory more generally. This collection, the first ever anthology on maternal theory, introduces readers to this rich and diverse tradition of maternal theory. Composed of 50 chapters and covering more than three decades of scholarship, Maternal Theory includes all the "must read" theorists on motherhood. Writers include: Adrienne Rich, Nancy Chodorow, Sara Ruddick, Alice Walker, Barbara Katz Rothman, bell hooks, Sharon Hays, Patricia Hill-Collins, Julia Kristeva, Kim Anderson, Audre Lorde, Ellen Lewin, Daphne de Marneffe, Ariel Gore, Ann Crittenden, Judith Warner…
This book literally became my bible when I started writing about motherhood and television. I just loved their down-to-earthness (is there such a word? There is now) and how Douglas and Michaels write from the heart about what it’s like to be a mother of young children and how the media constantly undermines that experience.
I honestly think this was the first time (and my first child was born in 1986) that anyone had voiced my experience, which was so far away from the way I ‘should be’ feeling. The introduction alone made my heart sing with lines such as ‘Brought back to reality by stereophonic whining, you indeed feel as sexy as Rush Limbaugh in a thong.’
These are my kind of women and my kind of writers. They made me feel so much better about the ambivalence I often felt about motherhood and helped me understand what was actually going on. Just get the book, turn to the bottom of page 3, and you will understand how life-affirming this book was to me.
Now in paperback, the provocative book that has ignited fiery debate and created a dialogue among women about the state of motherhood today. In THE MOMMY MYTH, Susan Douglas and Meredith Michaels turn their 'sharp, funny, and fed-up prose' (San Diego Union Tribune) toward the cult of the new momism, a trend in Western culture that suggests that women can only achieve contentment through the perfection of mothering. Even so, the standards of this ideal remain out of reach, no matter how hard women try to 'have it all'. THE MOMMY MYTH skilfully maps the distance travelled from the days…
This book is an essential read for those who wonder why motherhood is so underappreciated and unsupported in today’s America. It offers an historical take on motherhood and culture as well as looking at some of the most globally popular quality American television series produced this century. The book argues that the attitudes contained in many of these series is emblematic of the way mothers have historically been positioned.
Using series like Sex The City and The Sopranos (to name but two) the book suggests that the cultural antipathy towards women finds its way onto our TV screens and argues that not only does this impact our attitudes towards women and maternity but that audiences are generally unaware of this.
Kelly Simmons has been published in 12 countries by Simon & Schuster and Sourcebooks, and her widely praised novels are frequently compared to Big Little Lies.
Her new book, The Off Season, is set on the tranquil shores of the Chesapeake Bay, where headstrong thirteen-year-old Savannah bursts into the local police department, insisting her mother’s drowning was anything but an accident. She’s forced to tangle with the languid Bay police department as well as the year-rounder adults and teens who might be complicit not just in her mother’s death but a decades-old cold case.
For fans of Lisa Jewell and Liane Moriarty. Published in 12 countries by Simon & Schuster and Sourcebooks, Kelly's widely praised novels are frequently compared to BIG LITTLE LIES.
THE OFF SEASON explodes on the tranquil shores of the Chesapeake Bay. A headstrong thirteen-year-old girl insists her mother’s drowning was anything but an accident. She’s forced to tangle with the languid bay police department as well as the year-rounder adults and teens who might be complicit not just in her mother’s death, but a decades-old cold case. With echoes of GONE GIRL and STAND BY ME, it’s part crime, part…
